http://ambulancedriverfiles.com/2007/07/seeking-words-of-balm/ I doubt, therefore I think I am. Thu, 09 Sep 2010 06:27:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 http://ambulancedriverfiles.com/2007/07/seeking-words-of-balm/comment-page-3/#comment-21560 tbair Wed, 03 Feb 2010 01:49:42 +0000 http://ambulancedriverfiles.wordpress.com/2007/07/24/seeking-words-of-balm#comment-21560 "Do you believe people can go to Heaven if they've never accepted Jesus as their personal Lord and Savior? Bible says about Salvation through Acceptance & Confession of Jesus---(I know that to be true) I too believe it! Compassion, Love and Unconditional Acceptance!! You gave her exactly what she needed. “Do you believe people can go to Heaven if they've never accepted Jesus as their personal Lord and Savior? Bible says about Salvation through Acceptance & Confession of Jesus—(I know that to be true) I too believe it! Compassion, Love and Unconditional Acceptance!! You gave her exactly what she needed.

]]> http://ambulancedriverfiles.com/2007/07/seeking-words-of-balm/comment-page-3/#comment-19794 tbair Tue, 02 Feb 2010 21:49:42 +0000 http://ambulancedriverfiles.wordpress.com/2007/07/24/seeking-words-of-balm#comment-19794 "Do you believe people can go to Heaven if they've never accepted Jesus as their personal Lord and Savior? Bible says about Salvation through Acceptance & Confession of Jesus---(I know that to be true) I too believe it! Compassion, Love and Unconditional Acceptance!! You gave her exactly what she needed. “Do you believe people can go to Heaven if they've never accepted Jesus as their personal Lord and Savior? Bible says about Salvation through Acceptance & Confession of Jesus—(I know that to be true) I too believe it! Compassion, Love and Unconditional Acceptance!! You gave her exactly what she needed.

]]> http://ambulancedriverfiles.com/2007/07/seeking-words-of-balm/comment-page-3/#comment-2893 Alexander Wed, 03 Dec 2008 03:10:00 +0000 http://ambulancedriverfiles.wordpress.com/2007/07/24/seeking-words-of-balm#comment-2893 Speaking both as a student Funeral Director and a man who has recently lost his father we could all use the compashion that you have shown AD and one day I hope I can show it as well as you do Speaking both as a student Funeral Director and a man who has recently lost his father we could all use the compashion that you have shown AD and one day I hope I can show it as well as you do

]]> http://ambulancedriverfiles.com/2007/07/seeking-words-of-balm/comment-page-3/#comment-25557 Alexander Wed, 03 Dec 2008 03:10:00 +0000 http://ambulancedriverfiles.wordpress.com/2007/07/24/seeking-words-of-balm#comment-25557 Speaking both as a student Funeral Director and a man who has recently lost his father we could all use the compashion that you have shown AD and one day I hope I can show it as well as you do Speaking both as a student Funeral Director and a man who has recently lost his father we could all use the compashion that you have shown AD and one day I hope I can show it as well as you do

]]> http://ambulancedriverfiles.com/2007/07/seeking-words-of-balm/comment-page-3/#comment-2891 CountyRat Tue, 15 Jan 2008 18:26:00 +0000 http://ambulancedriverfiles.wordpress.com/2007/07/24/seeking-words-of-balm#comment-2891 Thank you, AD. You said more then most could in so few words, which is why there are over fifty responses to this post.</></>For those who missed AD's point, and want or need some more formal information, here is what I offer. The answer to the question, "what are you supposed to say," is simple: nothing. There is nothing to say. Don't try to be smart. You aren't smart enough, so don't try. Don't try to be compassionate. Its in you or it isn't. Don't try to work it up. And don't offer any answers, because you don't have any.</></>What you do, what matters, all the answers to the "what do you do or say questions," is this: you don't DO anything, you just stay there. If they're standing, you stand next to them. if there sitting, you sit next to them. If they're crying, you can do that too, if you are cool with that (if you're not, then don't. It doesn't matter).</></>You are a bit player in the story of the worst moment of someone's life. That's all you are. All your "what do I say" questions arrise from an erroneous belief that you matter. You do not matter. So stop trying to figure out how to matter.</></>What matters, the thing they will remember (if they remember you at all, which also does not matter) is that when they where suffering, someone stayed with them and let them suffer without adding words to their grief.</></>Rav, all that matters is that you stay. And while you stay, that you suffer with them. Do that, and you have done it all. Do anything else, and you have done nothing.</></>Then, give yourself three minutes to clear your mind, wipe your eyes, and move on to the next patient. Thank you, AD. You said more then most could in so few words, which is why there are over fifty responses to this post.For those who missed AD’s point, and want or need some more formal information, here is what I offer. The answer to the question, “what are you supposed to say,” is simple: nothing. There is nothing to say. Don’t try to be smart. You aren’t smart enough, so don’t try. Don’t try to be compassionate. Its in you or it isn’t. Don’t try to work it up. And don’t offer any answers, because you don’t have any.What you do, what matters, all the answers to the “what do you do or say questions,” is this: you don’t DO anything, you just stay there. If they’re standing, you stand next to them. if there sitting, you sit next to them. If they’re crying, you can do that too, if you are cool with that (if you’re not, then don’t. It doesn’t matter).You are a bit player in the story of the worst moment of someone’s life. That’s all you are. All your “what do I say” questions arrise from an erroneous belief that you matter. You do not matter. So stop trying to figure out how to matter.What matters, the thing they will remember (if they remember you at all, which also does not matter) is that when they where suffering, someone stayed with them and let them suffer without adding words to their grief.Rav, all that matters is that you stay. And while you stay, that you suffer with them. Do that, and you have done it all. Do anything else, and you have done nothing.Then, give yourself three minutes to clear your mind, wipe your eyes, and move on to the next patient.

]]> http://ambulancedriverfiles.com/2007/07/seeking-words-of-balm/comment-page-3/#comment-2892 CountyRat Tue, 15 Jan 2008 18:26:00 +0000 http://ambulancedriverfiles.wordpress.com/2007/07/24/seeking-words-of-balm#comment-2892 Thank you, AD. You said more then most could in so few words, which is why there are over fifty responses to this post.</></>For those who missed AD's point, and want or need some more formal information, here is what I offer. The answer to the question, "what are you supposed to say," is simple: nothing. There is nothing to say. Don't try to be smart. You aren't smart enough, so don't try. Don't try to be compassionate. Its in you or it isn't. Don't try to work it up. And don't offer any answers, because you don't have any.</></>What you do, what matters, all the answers to the "what do you do or say questions," is this: you don't DO anything, you just stay there. If they're standing, you stand next to them. if there sitting, you sit next to them. If they're crying, you can do that too, if you are cool with that (if you're not, then don't. It doesn't matter).</></>You are a bit player in the story of the worst moment of someone's life. That's all you are. All your "what do I say" questions arrise from an erroneous belief that you matter. You do not matter. So stop trying to figure out how to matter.</></>What matters, the thing they will remember (if they remember you at all, which also does not matter) is that when they where suffering, someone stayed with them and let them suffer without adding words to their grief.</></>Rav, all that matters is that you stay. And while you stay, that you suffer with them. Do that, and you have done it all. Do anything else, and you have done nothing.</></>Then, give yourself three minutes to clear your mind, wipe your eyes, and move on to the next patient. Thank you, AD. You said more then most could in so few words, which is why there are over fifty responses to this post.For those who missed AD’s point, and want or need some more formal information, here is what I offer. The answer to the question, “what are you supposed to say,” is simple: nothing. There is nothing to say. Don’t try to be smart. You aren’t smart enough, so don’t try. Don’t try to be compassionate. Its in you or it isn’t. Don’t try to work it up. And don’t offer any answers, because you don’t have any.What you do, what matters, all the answers to the “what do you do or say questions,” is this: you don’t DO anything, you just stay there. If they’re standing, you stand next to them. if there sitting, you sit next to them. If they’re crying, you can do that too, if you are cool with that (if you’re not, then don’t. It doesn’t matter).You are a bit player in the story of the worst moment of someone’s life. That’s all you are. All your “what do I say” questions arrise from an erroneous belief that you matter. You do not matter. So stop trying to figure out how to matter.What matters, the thing they will remember (if they remember you at all, which also does not matter) is that when they where suffering, someone stayed with them and let them suffer without adding words to their grief.Rav, all that matters is that you stay. And while you stay, that you suffer with them. Do that, and you have done it all. Do anything else, and you have done nothing.Then, give yourself three minutes to clear your mind, wipe your eyes, and move on to the next patient.

]]> http://ambulancedriverfiles.com/2007/07/seeking-words-of-balm/comment-page-3/#comment-25555 CountyRat Tue, 15 Jan 2008 18:26:00 +0000 http://ambulancedriverfiles.wordpress.com/2007/07/24/seeking-words-of-balm#comment-25555 Thank you, AD. You said more then most could in so few words, which is why there are over fifty responses to this post.For those who missed AD's point, and want or need some more formal information, here is what I offer. The answer to the question, "what are you supposed to say," is simple: nothing. There is nothing to say. Don't try to be smart. You aren't smart enough, so don't try. Don't try to be compassionate. Its in you or it isn't. Don't try to work it up. And don't offer any answers, because you don't have any.What you do, what matters, all the answers to the "what do you do or say questions," is this: you don't DO anything, you just stay there. If they're standing, you stand next to them. if there sitting, you sit next to them. If they're crying, you can do that too, if you are cool with that (if you're not, then don't. It doesn't matter).You are a bit player in the story of the worst moment of someone's life. That's all you are. All your "what do I say" questions arrise from an erroneous belief that you matter. You do not matter. So stop trying to figure out how to matter.What matters, the thing they will remember (if they remember you at all, which also does not matter) is that when they where suffering, someone stayed with them and let them suffer without adding words to their grief.Rav, all that matters is that you stay. And while you stay, that you suffer with them. Do that, and you have done it all. Do anything else, and you have done nothing.Then, give yourself three minutes to clear your mind, wipe your eyes, and move on to the next patient. Thank you, AD. You said more then most could in so few words, which is why there are over fifty responses to this post.For those who missed AD’s point, and want or need some more formal information, here is what I offer. The answer to the question, “what are you supposed to say,” is simple: nothing. There is nothing to say. Don’t try to be smart. You aren’t smart enough, so don’t try. Don’t try to be compassionate. Its in you or it isn’t. Don’t try to work it up. And don’t offer any answers, because you don’t have any.What you do, what matters, all the answers to the “what do you do or say questions,” is this: you don’t DO anything, you just stay there. If they’re standing, you stand next to them. if there sitting, you sit next to them. If they’re crying, you can do that too, if you are cool with that (if you’re not, then don’t. It doesn’t matter).You are a bit player in the story of the worst moment of someone’s life. That’s all you are. All your “what do I say” questions arrise from an erroneous belief that you matter. You do not matter. So stop trying to figure out how to matter.What matters, the thing they will remember (if they remember you at all, which also does not matter) is that when they where suffering, someone stayed with them and let them suffer without adding words to their grief.Rav, all that matters is that you stay. And while you stay, that you suffer with them. Do that, and you have done it all. Do anything else, and you have done nothing.Then, give yourself three minutes to clear your mind, wipe your eyes, and move on to the next patient.

]]> http://ambulancedriverfiles.com/2007/07/seeking-words-of-balm/comment-page-3/#comment-25556 CountyRat Tue, 15 Jan 2008 18:26:00 +0000 http://ambulancedriverfiles.wordpress.com/2007/07/24/seeking-words-of-balm#comment-25556 Thank you, AD. You said more then most could in so few words, which is why there are over fifty responses to this post.For those who missed AD's point, and want or need some more formal information, here is what I offer. The answer to the question, "what are you supposed to say," is simple: nothing. There is nothing to say. Don't try to be smart. You aren't smart enough, so don't try. Don't try to be compassionate. Its in you or it isn't. Don't try to work it up. And don't offer any answers, because you don't have any.What you do, what matters, all the answers to the "what do you do or say questions," is this: you don't DO anything, you just stay there. If they're standing, you stand next to them. if there sitting, you sit next to them. If they're crying, you can do that too, if you are cool with that (if you're not, then don't. It doesn't matter).You are a bit player in the story of the worst moment of someone's life. That's all you are. All your "what do I say" questions arrise from an erroneous belief that you matter. You do not matter. So stop trying to figure out how to matter.What matters, the thing they will remember (if they remember you at all, which also does not matter) is that when they where suffering, someone stayed with them and let them suffer without adding words to their grief.Rav, all that matters is that you stay. And while you stay, that you suffer with them. Do that, and you have done it all. Do anything else, and you have done nothing.Then, give yourself three minutes to clear your mind, wipe your eyes, and move on to the next patient. Thank you, AD. You said more then most could in so few words, which is why there are over fifty responses to this post.For those who missed AD’s point, and want or need some more formal information, here is what I offer. The answer to the question, “what are you supposed to say,” is simple: nothing. There is nothing to say. Don’t try to be smart. You aren’t smart enough, so don’t try. Don’t try to be compassionate. Its in you or it isn’t. Don’t try to work it up. And don’t offer any answers, because you don’t have any.What you do, what matters, all the answers to the “what do you do or say questions,” is this: you don’t DO anything, you just stay there. If they’re standing, you stand next to them. if there sitting, you sit next to them. If they’re crying, you can do that too, if you are cool with that (if you’re not, then don’t. It doesn’t matter).You are a bit player in the story of the worst moment of someone’s life. That’s all you are. All your “what do I say” questions arrise from an erroneous belief that you matter. You do not matter. So stop trying to figure out how to matter.What matters, the thing they will remember (if they remember you at all, which also does not matter) is that when they where suffering, someone stayed with them and let them suffer without adding words to their grief.Rav, all that matters is that you stay. And while you stay, that you suffer with them. Do that, and you have done it all. Do anything else, and you have done nothing.Then, give yourself three minutes to clear your mind, wipe your eyes, and move on to the next patient.

]]> http://ambulancedriverfiles.com/2007/07/seeking-words-of-balm/comment-page-2/#comment-2890 Aunt Murry Wed, 01 Aug 2007 21:07:00 +0000 http://ambulancedriverfiles.wordpress.com/2007/07/24/seeking-words-of-balm#comment-2890 Wow. First time reader. I have always believed that I would always know the right thing to say and or do in any of those situations, guided by the hand of God. But more often than not, I just dumbfounded and end up with a cliche. Thanks for the lesson. Wow. First time reader. I have always believed that I would always know the right thing to say and or do in any of those situations, guided by the hand of God. But more often than not, I just dumbfounded and end up with a cliche. Thanks for the lesson.

]]> http://ambulancedriverfiles.com/2007/07/seeking-words-of-balm/comment-page-2/#comment-25554 Aunt Murry Wed, 01 Aug 2007 21:07:00 +0000 http://ambulancedriverfiles.wordpress.com/2007/07/24/seeking-words-of-balm#comment-25554 Wow. First time reader. I have always believed that I would always know the right thing to say and or do in any of those situations, guided by the hand of God. But more often than not, I just dumbfounded and end up with a cliche. Thanks for the lesson. Wow. First time reader. I have always believed that I would always know the right thing to say and or do in any of those situations, guided by the hand of God. But more often than not, I just dumbfounded and end up with a cliche. Thanks for the lesson.

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